Archive for April, 2013

If you have given the Five Ways to Reboot Your Innate Essence a try you are probably thinking ‘well is that it?’ and the answer is ‘No…… there is definitely more’

The ‘more’ requires more effort, but lets look at it this way; you have started climbing a mountain, one you wish to reach the top of to see the beautiful view from the summit. You can choose to turn and go back down……or you can put more effort in and keep climbing. Any journey worth starting requires dedication, however don’t forget to enjoy the climb. It’s natural to set your sights on the end of the climb, the top of the mountain but there is also a lot to see and enjoy along the way.

In Five Ways to Reboot Your Innate Essence we looked at conscious living. We talked about finding things to be grateful for and consciously feeling the connection between your emotions and gratitude. Now it is time to look at that concept a little closer.

  • Conscious living requires you to think about what you are doing; to be present, mindful and aware.
  • Conscious living also involves being aware of your thoughts. These thoughts might be connected to what you are doing or they might be the self talk we have with ourselves constantly. The majority of people’s self talk is negative and criticising, often of themselves. Don’t believe me? Tune into your own self talk as much as you can for the next half hour. I believe you will be surprised how much your talk involves words such as; can’t, shouldn’t or should have, mustn’t, and I have to. Add to this the words we use on ourselves when we do something not up to our standards “I’m an idiot, I should have known better”,  “I can’t understand this I’m just stupid”, or when we compare ourselves to others, “I’m too fat” or “my teeth are too crooked” and I’m not pretty like…..”

So what needs to happen now is for you to be more aware, more conscious of your thoughts. Your self talk needs to be the same as talking with your best and dearest friend, using words of encouragement, praise, compassion and love. You will notice two things begin to happen; you will be aware of just how much self talking you do and, although you might still use negative talk at least you will be noticing it and be conscious of your ability to change it to positive talk.

The rewards for changing from living  life unconsciously to one of living consciously are at times immeasurable. You will notice there is definitely more joy and goodness in the world because you will become more attuned to the ‘small things’ and the richness of life, not so much from material things but more from what is intangible.

The more you become aware of your self talk the easier it becomes to change what you say to yourself from negative to positive. This in turn triggers awareness in other areas of your life. You might begin to notice that you are really not the negative labels you have been using on yourself, and because of this awareness your self esteem can only improve. You really have nothing to lose. I encourage you to give it a try and take the next step.


Here are five simple ways to reconnect with your unique Innate Essence.           

Firstly let me tell you what Innate Essence is. It is the purest form of ourselves. Who we were before being ‘changed’ and ‘shaped’ by others ideas and the information we received about ourselves and the world around us. Finding yours again may be a hard road but the five steps here will get you started.

When your Innate Essence is powered up and glowing it affects you and others around you in astounding ways. It may even encourage and inspire others to find and exhibit their own Innate Essence. It allows you to feel charged up, fully alive, and living life with clear intentions, attitudes and principles. 

You don’t need to experience tragedy misfortune or heartbreak to find your own Innate Essence although these have been a catalyst for many people. We are all born with it, some harvest it, some lose sight of it or ignore it but it is never entirely lost.

  1. Immerse yourself in the emotion. Go back in your mind to a time when you were truly happy.  Perhaps you could meditate or simply relax to get you started. Capture what you were doing, who you were with, what your thoughts and dreams were. You are not looking to recreate the scene, you want to recreate the feelings connected to the scene. Wouldn’t you like to feel that way more often, if not always?
  2. Have gratitude for what is in your life now. Right this minute look around you. What do you see?  Don’t worry about what is missing from your life, what you think you need to be happy, focus on what you have…not on what you don’t have.
  3. Choose one thing you are grateful for. It might be a person, your garden, a pet, your health, or even your car. Take a few moments to think about what it is about ‘it’ that allows you to feel grateful. For example,  “I’m grateful for my car because it allows me freedom to come and go”
  4. Consciously feel the connection between your intention of gratitude and your emotion. Now that you have consciously connected with something in your life that is important and has value to you, you have lightly touched on your Innate Essence. But remember! It is not the object that connects you to your Innate Essence. It is the emotion that comes from being aware and acknowledging you are thankful for what you have.
  5. Step five is simply to practice steps one, two, three and four as often as you can. I started with once a day, usually before I drifted off to sleep. Now I am amazed at just how much I have in my life to be thankful for as I consciously take a moment to register gratitude for each. It will eventually become a good habit, one you can take everywhere with you.

These five steps are of course only the beginning. But you have to start somewhere right?

Interested in finding out more? I will attempt to share with you more insights I have on Innate Essence. I am learning more about my own every day and love to share with others.

Have any questions? I will do my best to answer all of them.

“In sickness and in health” is a verse usually reserved for wedding vows, but these words sprang to my mind this week at my workplace. I though to myself, why is that a few of my co workers, who shall remain nameless believe they will be regarded as “real troopers” who carry on regardless of illness, never taking a sick day because “they are for pussies”. I believe they think they are indispensable.

Well sure, when someone is off sick we all have to pick up the slack, but we still manage to get everything done. What really annoys me is that because these self centred people come to work with their colds, flues and gastric bugs its not too long before others go down with it and then we have a continuous round of pass the bucket.

We are not married to our jobs, well at least most of us aren’t so ‘in sickness and in health’ should not apply here. I sometimes wonder why workers who get sick feel they are doing everyone else a favour by continuing to work instead of staying home, getting rest and getting well. No body thinks you are Superman or Wonder Woman for working while you are coughing your guts up or running to the toilet every few minutes. Your co workers don’t want you there and neither do the customers!! So stay home….otherwise it just might be “Until death do us part”

One worker after a bout of coughing, came up for air long enough for me to ask if he was okay. He said “yeah, yeah all good just a cold” “Oh” I said with a concerned look on my face. “Do you realise how many germs you just spread around the shop during your coughing fit?” Nah,it’s all good”  he said “I had my hand over my mouth”….and he did but I have seen what sprays out into the air when people (even me) sneeze or cough. When the light is just right, streaming through the window catching the tiniest of dust particles your realise just what is contained in the air around you.

I find myself holding my breath a lot in my workplace and so far this year I have had a few bouts of illness that warranted antibiotics, but I stayed at home to ensure I wasn’t spreading my germs. Sometimes I think I’m wasting my time but then most days I know it takes one person to make a difference, write a blog and get others thinking about how they contribute to the illness of those around them.

"Cover Coughs, Cover Sneezes" - NARA...

“Cover Coughs, Cover Sneezes” – NARA – 514081 (Photo credit: Wikipedia)